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#206 Come Together with Dr. Emily Nagoski

Join us for an insightful exploration of the intricacies of sexual connections and relationship dynamics.

Renowned sex educator Emily Nagoski teams up with Dr. Kristie Overstreet to unravel the complexities of sexual satisfaction, self-discovery, and navigating societal expectations.
In this episode, Dr. Kristie and Dr. Emily Nagoski delve deep into the importance of self-connection, pleasure, and authenticity in fostering healthy, fulfilling relationships.

From challenging gender roles to reframing the conversation around desire and pleasure, Dr. Nagoski shares valuable insights aimed at empowering individuals to embrace their sexuality with confidence and joy.

Whether you’re seeking inspiration, practical advice, or a fresh perspective on sexual wellbeing, this episode offers wisdom and encouragement to guide you on your journey towards greater intimacy and connection.

#205 Why it’s not too late to start (or restart)?

It can be tough whether it’s starting for the first time or maybe even restarting the steps towards your goals.

Most of the time it’s the 3 P’s that get in the way of forward movement.

In this episode you’ll learn how to identify and overcome the 3 P’s:
Perfectionism
People Pleasing
Procrastination
Dr. Kristie will share examples from her life as well as others to help you make the changes you need to create a better relationship with yourself and others, so you can design the life you deserve.

#204 Stop Doing These Things If You Want A Healthier Relationship With Yourself

Are you ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth?

We explore common behaviors hindering self-connection and growth.

In this episode, Dr. Kristie talks about 10 common behaviors that can get in the way of having a good relationship with oneself, such as self-criticism, perfectionism, negative self-talk, and avoiding self-reflection. Dr. Overstreet provides suggestions for “fixing” each behavior.

Start by applying these strategies today, and stay tuned for more insights in our upcoming episodes!

#203 How To Know If You’re In A Healthy Relationship?

Discover the Secrets to Healthy Relationship

Learn how to assess your relationship health and avoid staying in unfulfilling connections. Explore the key dynamics that make a relationship thrive, from mutual respect to effective conflict resolution. Discover the importance of quality time, shared values, and trust in nurturing a loving partnership.

In this episode, Dr. Kristie dives deep into the world of relationships, shedding light on what it takes to build and maintain a fulfilling partnership.

Whether in a relationship or looking to improve your connection with others, this episode has insights that can make a real difference.

#202 5 Steps to Stop Listening to Other’s Opinions and Start Trusting Yourself

How can constantly seeking other people’s opinions prevent someone from trusting their own judgement and decision making?

In the episode, Dr. Kristie gives five steps someone can take to start trusting themselves more: reflecting on their core values, practicing self-compassion, cultivating self-awareness, looking at their past progress and small goals, and learning to say no.

Mindfulness is also an important bonus step.

While getting others’ perspectives is fine, people need to bring their own perspectives to the table as well and make decisions that feel right for them.

#201 Navigating Jealousy in Ethical Nonmonogamous Relationships with Paige Bond

How do we define fidelity?
What’s cheating even in non-monogamous relationships?
How do you deal with the feelings that come up?
How do you have conversations about them and everything in between?

We tend to think of being jealous in such a bad light, but there are some good things that can come from it. In the same way, there are a lot of different types of relationships, from monogamous to relationship chaos and everything in between.

In this episode, I’m chatting with Paige Bond. She is a marriage and family therapist, she helps individuals, and couples work on feeling more connected and secure in their relationships.

#200 How to Create Emotional Safety in your Relationship

In this episode, we will discuss emotional safety, what truly occurs when we lack it, how to restore sex and intimacy when they are lacking, the relationship between our attachment style and emotional safety, how that’s connected to it,

and the 10 practical steps to start practicing and

#198 Coming Out and Into the Woods with Lindsay and Lauren

Wondering how to navigate the highs and lows of embracing your unique identity, especially in the face of societal norms? Join us as we engage in a heartfelt and honest discussion with the inspiring duo, Lindsay Boccardo and Lauren Moffatt. Our guests delve into their personal experiences of overcoming internalized homophobia, religious and spiritual trauma, and complicated family dynamics. They share the fear, courage, and resilience that has enabled them to stand tall in their truth.

In this episode, we talk about their experiences of coming out and the importance of supportive partners and allies. Lindsay and Lauren provide useful advice on how to create an accepting environment for LGBTQIA+ individuals and their families. Finally, our guests recount the empowering process of personal growth that comes from being true to oneself.

Join us on this inspiring journey as we explore the dynamics of coming out, the pressure of purity culture, and the power of authenticity. Be prepared to be moved and inspired.

#197 Why I decided to start IVF and get Engaged at 45 using the Decision Making Method

tust is vital when making major life decisions,

In this episode we’ll delve into how to foster that trust in oneself. We’ll also discuss how to navigate when you feel unsure and how to handle the inevitable setbacks. Remember, growth is not linear, and taking a step back often precedes moving forward. We’ll stand together facing the tough decisions, making this formidable journey less intimidating.

#196 Pleasure and Intimacy interview with Dr. Kristie and Paige Bond

Examining our sexual template, these are the messages we received growing up through young-adult and adulthood that shape how we see ourselves and our sexual selves.

In this episode, we talked about rewriting that template, examining our needs for emotional and physical closeness, confronting sexually demeaning messages, incorporating sexual touch into relationships, communicating desire, having wonderful sexual experiences, and then figuring out how to revive a bedroom where nothing is happening.

I’m going to share my interview with Paige Bond LMFT from her podcast, Stubborn Love. This conversation is about breaking sexual taboos and exploring pleasure, intimacy, and equality.

#195 What to do if you feel lost in life?

Have you ever felt lost? 

Not just getting lost when driving or hiking somewhere; It means getting internally lost?

Are you living a life where you feel connected to who you are? And where do you want to be in your relationships?

#194 Lust Life Love with Stephanie Sellars

Is true love a reason to be monogamous?

What happens when a relationship ends? If we think there’s only one person for us, what would happen if they died?

What if we ended our relationship with them? Why did those connections end? Does that mean the relationship meant nothing?

#193 Expectations, Estrangement and Parental Healing with Abbey Williams

How’s your relationship with your mother?

Do you need to set up boundaries with your mom?

There are a lot of problems that can arise in relationships with parents. Depending on how well that relationship is going, there can come a time when you really need to consider how it’s impacting you, your family, and others close to you.

#191 Unbroken with Dr. MaryCatherine McDonald

Discussions about trauma are everywhere. That’s because almost everyone has gone through a traumatic event at some point. Everyone deals with it and reacts to it differently. Yet what unites us is the idea that trauma results in dysfunction in how we respond to it. and the fact that the trauma response is a sign of strength, not weakness.

#190 5 Lessons about Relationships From 16+ Years of Couples Work

It can be overwhelming to be in a relationship. But when difficulties arise, they make you feel helpless. You certainly could use a few lessons to support you as you show up to be your best self. It is very possible that as you alter and become your healthiest self, maybe you’ll be in a better position to decide what has to be decided for your own wellbeing.

#189 How To Be A Better Communicator In Relationships

How can you communicate more effectively in your relationships? Start by accepting that you have no control over anyone else. You only have control over yourself, and that means being fully and authentically responsible for how you communicate.

Your feelings, thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, and experiences effect how you show up in your relationships.

Are you taking what someone says personally? Are you taking responsibility for what comes out of your mouth? Are you playing the victim? Do you get caught up in tit-for-tat arguments?

In today’s episode, Dr. Kristie will walk you through five specific actions you may start taking to improve your communication skills in relationships.

#187 How To Stop Overthinking From Ruining Your Progress

Do you ever get so lost in overthinking that you can’t focus or make good decisions?

Whether you’re worried about what you said, that fight with your partner that y’all haven’t worked out, fear that your job will be cut, or about what could happen to your children?
These are areas that do deserve attention especially when problems need solving, but getting stuck in your overthinking will buckle you.

Overthinking will continue to get in the way of your progress if you let it. You can’t emotionally, physically, mentally, or spiritually afford to continue your habit of overthinking.

#186 Myths about Sexual Desire and Arousal to Stop Believing

Sexual desire, arousal, and differences in desire happen, especially through changes in our life experiences. Dealing with these issues can cause shame, embarrassment, and anxiety.

The messages we’ve received through the years contribute to our self-talk, especially when it comes to our sexual selves. We begin to believe that something is wrong with us or that our desire is directly connected with our ability to love our partner and many other myths that negatively affect our sexual self-esteem.

#185 Why We Have To Uphold Boundaries In Relationships?

What are boundaries in relationships?

How do you uphold your boundaries?

What happens when your boundaries aren’t respected?

It may sound simple, but there are three steps involved in creating healthy boundaries.

Without these three steps, boundaries can feel overwhelming and impossible to uphold. Since boundaries are how we teach people how to treat us, ensuring we have healthy boundaries is how we develop lasting relationships.

#184 Rewriting Your Sexual Template

How’s the foundation of your sexual self?

What were the messages about sex and your body that you were told growing up as a child?
What were the messages about sex and your body that you were told growing up as a teen?
What were the messages about sex and your body that you were told growing up as a young adult?

Is your sexual template affecting your present relationship? Or your previous relationship?

You may rewrite your sexual template if you choose by first understanding what it is, where it came from, what it is made of, and how it works.

#183 12 Types of Intimacy (Part 2)

If you’re in a relationship, or, single, ask yourself the following:

How do I define intimacy?
What are my intimacy wants, needs, and desires?
Which ones are important to my partner (or future partner)?
Which do I need to prioritize for my current (or future) relationship?

#182 12 Types of Intimacy (Part 1)

When you consider the various types of intimacy, which types of connection do you prefer in your relationships?

In this episode, Dr. Kristie will help you better understand intimacy and how to use it to actually improve your relationships.

So you’re already one step ahead of the game by knowing yourself, understanding your intimacy needs, and preparing to avoid becoming a statistic of a short live relationship.

#181 5 Surprising Ways Anxiety Shows Up In Your Relationships

Is your anxiety affecting your relationship, or do you have worries that prevent you from dating or pursuing relationships?

If you answered YES to any of these questions, get ready to transform your anxiety. In this episode of Fix Yourself First, Dr. Kristie shares with you the 5 unexpected ways anxiety manifests, which can damage your relationship.

#180 Why focusing on Yourself isn’t Selfish

Have you ever heard or thought that taking care of yourself means you’re a selfish person? If you take time for yourself, set boundaries, or put yourself as the priority then you are selfish.

In today’s episode, Dr. Kristie talks about the benefits of focusing on yourself and the reasons why taking care of yourself isn’t selfish. When you take care of yourself, everyone around you benefits and this episode will help you embrace this truth.

#178 Are You Living In Your Values?

Are you living in your values? If you stop and consider it, everything you do is always influenced by your values.

Most of us need a wake-up call to return to what we value as a person. Instead of being stuck and living into other people’s values and might be struggling to live what we truly value.

#177 Love, Ambition, and The Show Girl

Love, Ambition, and The Show Girl talk with Nicola Harrison, How to stay inspired and motivated.

#176 Which Role Are You Playing In Your Relationships?

Have you ever thought about how you show up specifically in your relationships?

Dr. Kristie talks about these three roles as they relate to a few key areas of your life, including self-care, boundaries, communication, conflict, and sex and intimacy.

Stick around until the end, and learn more about these three roles if you want to have a healthy relationship with yourself and others.

#175 9 Signs You Have Unhealthy Boundaries

If you feel that you struggle with creating boundaries, you should pay attention to your gut and instincts.

Understanding your boundaries will be the only way that you’re able to create those relationships you deserve.

#174  5 Most Common Relationship Issues and How to Fix Them

Relationships can be difficult, but most of the time, we make things more harder than they need to be.

You don’t have to do that any longer. Dr. Kristie talks about the list of those five things you’re going to watch out for and then suggestions on how to address each level.

And hopes that you take those suggestions to make changes for yourself, because she believes you deserve a healthy relationship and no one can give that or do that for you.

#172 To Divorce or Not to Divorce Can it Work with Dennis Vetrano

Sometimes, relationships don’t work the way we want it to. There are a lot of factors that can lead into the fallout of a relationship, whether it be falling out of love, mutual agreement of moving on to different partners, or a realization of a different path. In this episode of Fix Yourself First with Dr. Kristie, we’ll be talking about divorce as a whole and as an option. 

#171 How your Attachment Style Influences Sex & Intimacy?

Are you struggling with making a connection with somebody? Do you feel embarrassed when it comes to talking about sex with your partner? Pushing them away whenever the topic arises? If so, it’s time to explore your attachment style.

In this episode, I’ll cover the influence of attachment styles on your relationships, how they were formed in your childhood, and how this relates to adulthood. Understanding attachment styles and intimacy.

#170 Ways to Stop Arguing and Resolve the Issue

If you’re in a relationship (or have been in one in the past), you know how difficult it is to work through conflict. Depending on your relationship’s health, you either resolve the issue or get deeper into the conflict cycle.
Your days of constantly arguing are over because, in this episode, I’ll help you to stop arguing and start resolving your issues.

#169 How Relationship Equality Can Improve Intimacy?

Relationships are all about giving and taking. Feelings, communication, and actions need to come from both partners. No one in a relationship wants to feel neglected or cared for. However, couples sometimes face the problem of giving too little and taking too much. 
Partnerships without equality are problematic. That’s why Dr. Kristie will talk about the real benefits of equality in relationships in this episode. After listening to this episode, you’ll have the strategies to improve intimacy, focusing on both partners caring for their share of responsibilities within the relationship.

#168 Why Relationships Don’t Have To Be As Hard As We Make Them

In this episode, Dr. Kristie talks about how we figure ourselves out and learn from those relationships as well as be able to pivot change.

#167 Feeling Bored in Your Relationship? Try These Hacks!

Boredom is a common problem couples face, especially those in long-term relationships. But you don’t have to be bored. Luckily, in this episode, Dr. Kristie talks about simple and practical steps that you can take to spice up a relationship that has gone stale.

#165 Taking Control of How People Treat You

Have you ever had someone hurt you so bad but felt like there’s nothing you can do about it? I want to let you know that you have the power to do something about it. How people treat you is 100% in your hands. That is the philosophy behind Fix Yourself First is to take this power, embrace it, and gain control over yourself.

Exploring Your Sexuality through Erotica

#164 Exploring Your Sexuality through Erotica with Ruan Willow

In this episode, we are joined by an erotica writer and podcaster under the pen name Ruan Willow. She has written romance and erotic romance books and even started her own publishing house. We talk about normalizing fantasy desire and our own connection with ourselves and how erotica has allowed people to be able to get carried away with their own sense of imagination and imaginary play.

Fix Yourself First Episode 161 Finding Love Again After a Toxic Divorce with Lisa & Chris

#161 Finding Love Again After a Toxic Divorce with Lisa & Chris

Join me for a conversation with Lisa and Chris, co-founders of Been There Got Out, to discuss their journey of finding love and hope after high-conflict divorces. They started with a friendship that soon developed into a loving and romantic relationship and they are sharing their journey here.

Fix Yourself First Episode 160 What Confident Communication Really Is & How to Build It

#160 What Confident Communication Really Is & How to Build It

In today’s episode, I’m explaining what is confident communication and how to build it.

Fix Yourself First Episode 154 Healing & Moving Forward with Janice Formichella

#154 Healing & Moving Forward with Janice Formichella

In this episode, I’m chatting with Janice Formichella. She is the creator of the Broken Heart Repair Kit and has support and advice on how to help when going through a breakup.

Fix Yourself First Episode 153 Is Overthinking Causing Relationship Anxiety?

#153 Is Overthinking Causing Relationship Anxiety?

In this week’s episode, you’ll learn about relationship anxiety and how it shows up in our relationships. The last place you need more anxiety is your relationships because they feel difficult enough at times.

Fix Yourself First Episode 148 Keeping Intimacy Alive Long Term by Kim Jefferson

#148 Keeping Intimacy Alive Long Term by Kim Jefferson

In this special episode, I’m the one on the hot seat with Kim Jefferson from the Fit Girl Magic podcast, where she interviews me about all things sex, intimacy, and communication in long-term relationships. You’re not going to want to miss this informative and action-packed episode.

Fix Yourself First Episode 147 How to Survive a High-Conflict Divorce with Lisa Johnson

#147 How to Survive a High-Conflict Divorce with Lisa Johnson

If it’s not you, then I know you’ve got a friend or family member who is struggling in their marriage. Since we’ve all had different experiences in our relationships as well as the families we grew up in, some of us are more likely to stay in unhealthy relationships than others. You’ll learn that you’re not alone and that you deserve a better relationship with yourself and others.

Fix Yourself First Episode 141 5 Tips for Surviving on Your Own Regardless of Your Relationship Status

#141 5 Tips for Surviving on Your Own Regardless of Your Relationship Status

In this episode, I’m giving you my 5 tips to help you be okay, regardless of who is in or out of your life. Trusting yourself, needed boundaries, and self-prioritization, you’ll find these tips helpful.

Fix Yourself First Episode 139 5 Proven Communication Tips to Try Today

#139 5 Proven Communication Tips to Try Today

In this episode, I’m giving you 5 easy to apply tips that you can start using today to be a better communicator. Each of these tips are proven to work and they’re just waiting on you to give them a try.

Fix Yourself First Episode 137 Listener Questions Answered: Couples Intimacy + Communication Issues

#137 Listener Questions Answered: Couples Intimacy + Communication Issues

In this week’s episode, listener questions are answered on intimacy and communication in relationships.

Fix Yourself First Episode 131 Sexual Self-Esteem, Desire Differences, & A Sexless Marriage by Shivonne Davis

#131 Sexual Self-Esteem, Desire Differences, & A Sexless Marriage by Shivonne Davis

In this week’s episode, Shivonne Davis, from the Millennial Marriage Toolkit Summit, interviews Dr. Kristie on all things sex and marriage. We discuss developing your sexual self-esteem, communicating about sex, navigating desire differences, what makes a sexless marriage, and how to bring sexual collaboration into your relationship.

Fix Yourself First Episode 126 11 Ways We Use Sex

#126 11 Ways We Use Sex

In this episode, I’m sharing the 11 roles of sex and the different reasons we use each.

Fix Yourself First Episode 125 Why You Need a Sexual Buffet

#125 Why You Need a Sexual Buffet

In this episode, I’m covering why you need a sexual buffet and how you can build one in your relationship. Get ready to have options other than just what you think “sex” is supposed to be.

Fix Yourself First Episode 124 Ending the Constant Conflict Cycle

#124 Ending the Constant Conflict Cycle

Have you ever been stuck in a constant conflict cycle? Where the same issue keeps getting brought up and no matter what you do, you can’t get unstuck. In this episode, I’ll share with you how to identify and get out of or stop a Constant Conflict Cycle.

Fix Yourself First Episode 123 5 Myths About Sex + Relationships You Need to Stop Believing

#123 5 Myths About Sex + Relationships You Need to Stop Believing

In this episode, I’m sharing with you the 5 myths that you may still be believing about sex that are negatively affecting you and your relationships. From desire differences to defining sex, you’ll learn the truth about these myths which will help you improve your relationships.

Fix Yourself First Episode 122 Your Communication Style & How It Affects Your Relationships

#122 Your Communication Style & How It Affects Your Relationships

In this episode, you’ll learn about the four different communication styles, which one you relate to, and how it affects your relationships. From communication to boundaries, you don’t want to miss this one.

Fix Yourself First Episode 121 Do I Stay or Do I Go? 3 Ways to Help You Decide

#121 Do I Stay or Do I Go? 3 Ways to Help You Decide

Thinking about ending your relationship or can’t decide if you need to stay or go? In this episode, I’m sharing 3 exercises you can do to help you navigate your decision. These will help you feel more confident in your decision, as well as help you think about what’s possible for your future, with or without your partner.

Fix Yourself First Episode 120 Breaking Down the REAL Issue in Your Relationship

#120 Breaking Down the REAL Issue in Your Relationship

In this episode, I’ll help you look past what’s on the surface and focus on the root of the problem, which is trust. I’ll give you my framework for how you can improve trust in your relationship today.

Fix Yourself First Episode 109 Hot Take: Actions Versus Words

#109 Hot Take: Actions Versus Words

In this week’s Hot Take episode of FYF, I’m sharing how to get trust back in your relationship by focusing on your ACTIONS, more than your words.

Fix Yourself First Episode 107 Hot Take: Healing After Infidelity

#107 Hot Take: Healing After Infidelity

If you’ve ever been cheated on or were the one doing the treating, don’t miss this hot take episode. I’m sharing my go-to tips on how to heal after infidelity if you want to repair the relationship.

Fix Yourself First Episode 106 Sexual Self-Esteem For Men with Martin Fretwell

#106 Sexual Self-Esteem For Men with Martin Fretwell

In this episode with Martin Fretwell, we discuss his journey with mental health, sexual health, and pleasure as well as why it’s so difficult to have this conversation in men’s spaces. Don’t miss our discussion on all things about men’s sexual health.

Fix Yourself First Episode 104 More Than A Mom with Lindsey Spelyng

#104 More Than A Mom with Lindsey Spelyng

In this episode, I’m chatting with Lindsey Spelyng, founder + CEO of MamaCommon, a membership platform for growth-minded and time-strapped women to flourish in all seasons of motherhood. She celebrates authenticity and vulnerability in herself and others more than anything, which is what she’s creating in her community.

Fix Yourself First Episode 102 STI Awareness with Courtney Brame

#102 STI Awareness with Courtney Brame

In this episode, I’m interviewing Courtney Brame, founder of Something Positive for Positive People, an organization advocating for the integration of post-STI diagnosis support resources and STD prevention efforts while connecting people struggling with STI stigma to mental health resources. We discuss stigma, discrimination, what to do post-diagnosis, communication about your diagnosis, and much more in our open chat about STIs.

Fix Yourself First Episode 101 Attachment Styles, Resentment, Boundaries, & Communication with Dr. Kristie

#101 Attachment Styles, Resentment, Boundaries, & Communication with Dr. Kristie

Ever wondered what your attachment style, resentment, boundaries and communication have to do with sex? In this special episode today, I’m sharing my interview from the I’m Not Late; You’re Just Early podcast, hosted by Sabrina Parmar. Don’t miss our conversation to help you improve not just your relationships, but the one with yourself as well!

Fix Yourself First Episode 98 Turning Down Your Inner Critic

#98 Turning Down Your Inner Critic

In this episode, I’ll teach you how our inner critic has a big effect on both our emotional and sexual selves as well as how you can begin to re-write the narrative. When you feel more in control of your thoughts and beliefs, your inner critic will be empowered to help you build a better relationship with yourself and others.

Fix Yourself First Episode 97 Talking with Your Kids About Sex

#97 Talking with Your Kids About Sex

In this episode, I’m covering how to talk to your kids about sex. From not knowing what to say, or how to say it, to figuring out at what age parents should start talking to their kids about sex, this episode will help parents navigate that conversation and help deal with the uncomfortability of talking about their own sexuality and sexual selves.

Fix Yourself First Episode 95 Get It Together with Eirene Heidelberger

#95 Get It Together with Eirene Heidelberger

In this episode, I chat with Eirene Hiedelberger. She runs a full-service parent coaching firm dedicated to helping Moms “Get It Together.” Because if mama isn’t happy, then no one is!

Fix Yourself First Episode 93 6 Requirements of a Healthy Relationship

#93 6 Requirements of a Healthy Relationship

In this episode, I’m sharing the 6 requirements of a healthy relationship. If you want a simple plan to get your relationship or future relationship in shape, don’t miss this one.

Fix Yourself First Episode 92 Ethical Non-Monogamy with Gabrielle Smith

#92 Ethical Non-Monogamy with Gabrielle Smith

In this week’s episode, Gabrielle Smith shares what you need to know about ethical non-monogamy, her journey, and what most people get wrong about opening up their relationships.

Fix Yourself First Episode 87 Dating in the Pandemic with Zach Schleien

#87 Dating in the Pandemic with Zach Schleien

In this episode, I chat with Zach Schleien, Co-founder/CEO of the video speed dating app, Filter Off. You’re going to love our conversation about how this app will change the dating world forever. No more filters or BS, with this app. An authentic connection awaits, if you’re ready to change how you view dating.

Fix Yourself First Episode 84 How Your Inner Child Affects Your Relationships with Sharon Land

#84 How Your Inner Child Affects Your Relationships with Sharon Land

In this episode Sharon Land, holistic psychotherapist, spiritualist and intuitive, shares how we can begin to work on our inner child in order to fully embrace our true selves. From quantum metaphysics to tending to your inner child, you’ll learn how to start doing the world today to heal your soul.

Fix Yourself First Episode 83 Relationship OCD with Nathan Peterson

#83 Relationship OCD with Nathan Peterson

In this episode anxiety expert Nathan Peterson shares everything you have ever wanted to know about Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), anxiety, and how it impacts our relationships. We talk in detail about Relationship OCD and how it is different than feeling anxious about our relationships.

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#81 Cheating & Repairing Trust

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#79 Navigating Relationships with Kevin Nahai

Today, I’m chatting with Kevin Nahai, speaker and coach. He and I connected and once I heard his story I knew I had to have him on the show. From dealing with a chronic disease to depression, disordered eating, and toxic relationships, he has been able to transform his life, overcome his challenges, and now helps people do the same with his tips and strategies.

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#71 Building and Maintaining Healthy Relationships with Dr. Kristie

Today, I’m chatting with Kevin Nahai, speaker and coach. He and I connected and once I heard his story I knew I had to have him on the show. From dealing with a chronic disease to depression, disordered eating, and toxic relationships, he has been able to transform his life, overcome his challenges, and now helps people do the same with his tips and strategies.

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#67 Figuring Out Your Needs Without the Guilt

Have you ever struggled with figuring out what you need? Does your guilt get in the way of discussing your needs? We all have needs and wants for ourselves as well as in our relationships. Knowing our needs and speaking up for them is the foundation of a healthy relationship. Don’t worry if you’re struggling, I’m going to walk you through my 5 steps to help you figure out your needs without the guilt.

Get ready to explore who you are, your needs, and how to give yourself permission to take action in this episode.

#65 12 Types of Intimacy You’re Looking For

Does it feel like your relationship is missing something? If you’re feeling disconnected from your partner or need to improve trust in your relationship, start by focusing on any of the 12 types of intimacy. In this episode, I’ll share the 12 different types of intimacy that we are looking for in our relationships. From physical intimacy to emotional intimacy, there are several more needs to be met in order to have our healthiest relationship.

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#64 How to Prevent Boredom in Your Relationship

Do you ever feel bored in your relationship or worried you’ll get bored? Long-term relationships can get boring, but you can prevent this from happening, or if this is a struggle now, you can turn it around. In this episode, I’m sharing my five tips that work to prevent boredom in your long-term relationship or how to use these to freshen up things. These tips are proven strategies that I use in my relationship, and thousands of my clients use that make a difference.

#62 Rebuilding Trust & Intimacy After Betrayal with Jennifer Lehr

Have you ever been cheated on or betrayed by your partner? Cheating, infidelity, and betrayal can damage trust in a relationship. But what if you’re trying to figure out if you want to give your partner another chance, how do you make the best decision. What if you’re the person that cheated on your partner? How do you come to terms and win back trust?

Join me in this episode for my chat with Jennifer Lehr, marriage and family therapist, as well as the creator of WeConcile. Jennifer’s mission is to help others create a life and relationship full of love and joy. We discuss what to do if you find out your partner is cheating, the different types of cheating, what steps to take to repair trust, and the difference in cheating and betrayal.

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#60 Breakups, Dating, and Divorce with Elliott Davis

Are you going through or have experienced a breakup or divorce and wanting to get your life back on track? In this episode, Elliott Davis, a values-based relationship coach, shares his journey and insight into helping you find the love you’re looking for. He’s helped many people become more self-aware and find self-actualization, which has led to their best lives ever. He shares his journey of divorce, recovering himself, and committing to a new relationship that will leave you empowered and ready to create the new life you deserve.

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#59 Talking About Sex in Your Relationship

How do we learn how to talk about sex? From what we’re taught growing up to our past experiences, we build a narrative about sex and intimacy. Here we are in long-term relationships expecting to talk about, navigate, and have a healthy sexual relationship with not being able to talk about our needs, wants, desires. In this episode, you’ll learn the 11 most common barriers to discussing sex in your relationship and my 11 go-to tips to help you have a better conversation around intimacy.

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#57 How to Dump Your Toxic Resentment

Toxic resentment is a common problem for individuals and couples because many things happen within a relationship to get mad about. Your partner says or does something that hurts you so deep that you think how could I ever get over it.

There’s not a timeline on your pain and hurt, but if it’s toxic for you, meaning it’s affecting areas of your life, you’ll want to decide if you’re going to keep holding on to the pain or dump it. In this episode, I’ll discuss how resentments affect our relationships, the three different types of communication responses, the power of forgiveness, and what you can do to take action to resolve your toxic resentment.

You deserve a happy and healthy relationship, but the only way to get it is to start within.

Fix Yourself First - Episode 51

#51 The True Cost of Toxic Relationships

Toxic, unhealthy, harmful, destructive…how would you describe your relationship? Whether you’re single or in a relationship, you need to know the warning signs of a toxic relationship. Most people in unhealthy relationships, don’t realize just how bad it is for their mental, emotional, physical, and sexual selves. In this episode, you’ll learn five signs of a toxic relationship and what this type of relationship can do to you. If you’re wondering if your relationship is costing you more than it benefits you, don’t miss this episode.

Fix Yourself First - Episode 50

#50 How Finances Affects Our Relationships with Christine Teh

In part 3 of the couples series, we’re tackling finances. Should you keep a joint account or separate? What if one person make more than the other? Don’t miss my convo with Christine Teh, a personal finance coach. Christine shares her evolution and passion for helping individuals live the life they love without finances being a stress. We’re responsible as individuals to develop a good relationship with money so we can bring our healthiest self to our relationships. If you’re ready for insight into your finances, check out this episode.

Fix Yourself First - Episode 48

#48 What Most Couples Get Wrong About Communication

Communication is one of the most common issues that couples deal with. The problem is that most couples get a few things wrong went they try to work on their communication. From the blame game to the argument cycle, to using words that don’t work, I’ll cover the five most common mistakes couples make in this area and what you can do to fix them.

Fix Yourself First - Episode 47

#47 3 Most Common Relationship Killers

What do communication, sex, and finances have in common? They are the three most common issues that kill relationships. Get ready to learn how vulnerability affects each of these common issues and tips to make changes to your relationship. Your relationship isn’t doomed; it just needs some work. Join me over the next few weeks as we deep dive into why communication, sex, and financial issues can destroy a relationship if they aren’t improved. In this episode, I explain what you can do today to improve communication, sex, and finances in your relationship.

Fix Yourself First - Episode 43

#43 Finding the Love You’re Looking For with Veronica Grant

Ready to find the love you’re looking for? Your search starts within, but don’t worry because you aren’t alone. In this episode Veronica and I talk about how to go about finding the right person to spend your life with. We cover the importance of inner-child work, body image, self-awareness, codependency, and tools you can use today to improve any relationship you are in. Don’t miss Veronica’s sound advice in this episode.

#39 How Confidence Affects Your Relationship

Do you realize how much your confidence affects your relationship? If you’re ready to dive into ways to improve your confidence, tune in to this episode. From how you see yourself to how your partner sees you, I’m covering everything you need to know about the affect it has on your relationship. Don’t miss the three questions you need to ask yourself and my favorite five tips on improving your confidence, which will improve your relationship.

Fix Yourself First - Episode 37

#37 Sex vs. Intimacy: Why You Need to Know the Difference

Today, I’m chatting with Kevin Nahai, speaker and coach. He and I connected and once I heard his story I knew I had to have him on the show. From dealing with a chronic disease to depression, disordered eating, and toxic relationships, he has been able to transform his life, overcome his challenges, and now helps people do the same with his tips and strategies.

Fix Yourself First - Episode 32

#32 Dr. Kristie on Meeting Needs in Relationships

What does a sex therapist have to say about your needs in a relationship?

In this episode, Dr. Kristie is interviewed by Kacie Main about relationship needs and desires. She discusses boundaries, development of focusing on self, the number of chances you give people, and how fear shows up in relationships.

Don’t miss this candid episode of what you need to know to get your needs met.

Fix Yourself First - Episode 30

#30 5 Questions to Ask Yourself if You Are Considering Ending Your Relationship

So here you are, you have a big decision to make. You know you need to make a change, but you are unsure what to do. You have two options, do you stay in your unhealthy relationship, or do you decide to leave.

In this episode, I share the five questions you need to ask yourself if you are considering ending your relationship. From checking all the boxes to weighing the good versus bad days, don’t miss these exercises to make sure you don’t regret your decision down the road.

Fix Yourself First - Episode 25

#25 Emotional Management in Relationships with Dr. Robert Cywes

Wondering what a surgeon has to say about the connection of food, relationships, and emotions? In this episode, I chat with Dr. Robert Cywes, who has spent many years recognizing the connection between our emotional management systems, relationships, and how it is connected with the food we eat. From personalities, communication, relationships, anxiety, depression, addiction, food, and feelings, we cover a plethora of topics.

Fix Yourself First - Episode 22

#22 5 Tips for Couples Who Are Ready to Stop Arguing

Relationship arguments are optional. Every couple has disagreements in their relationships, but they don’t have to turn into an argument. You can stop the cycle of arguing within your relationship. In this episode, I share my top 5 tips for couples who are ready to stop arguing.

Fix Yourself First - Episode 21

#21 Stop Anxiety From Ruining Your Relationship with Emily Davis

I can’t wait for you to listen to my recent chat with Emily Davis, lover of all things fantasy, magical, and nerdy. She is the author of Damsel No More. We talk about how she applies the strategies of role-play gaming to the life coaching world. After years of surviving relationship abuse, she made it her quest to help women slay their fears and create healthy relationships through creativity and play. Here’s my conversation with Emily on how to stop anxiety from ruining your relationship.

Fix Yourself First - Episode 18

#18 Ask Me Anything

As a psychotherapist and clinical sexologist, I receive hundreds of emails from people asking questions about every aspect of their lives. From mental health, relationships, sex, gender identity, sexual identity, and many other topics, I enjoy providing my thoughts on these topics. I decided it would be helpful to take a few of your questions and answer them in an Ask Me Anything episode. This one is general topics, and future ones will specifically cover questions about sex and identities.

Fix Yourself First - Episode 13

#13 3 Secrets to Improve Your Relationship with Anyone

What if you could do something right now, at this moment that would improve your relationships? I can’t give you a magic wand that will make all of your problems in your relationships go away, but I can tell you three secrets that will make things better.

You can create change within your personal and professional relationships. The change you are looking for doesn’t have to be out of reach. Check out this episode and find out the three secrets that can make a big difference.