Do you ever feel controlled by fear? Like you can’t move forward because worry has a stronghold on you? Whether it’s real or imagined, fear can make you feel stuck, and that’s not a spot any of us want to be in. I, most importantly, don’t want you to be there. That’s why in today’s post, I’ll review what causes fear, the types of fear that exist, and provide 3 tips to face your fear.
Before we jump into it and cover the types of fear, let’s first review what fear is.
The definition of fear is the following:
“Fear is an unpleasant feeling triggered by the perception of danger. Whether it’s real or imagined.”
Simply put, this means that it is either very real or very much a story that we create.
Knowing the latter, we can rewrite the narrative and have a healthy mindset where fear isn’t controlling our lives.
This, we have to review since some fears in life are real and come from external environments or past experiences. I don’t want to discredit them since they happen, and while tips may help, therapy is also a great place to delve into and work through them.
The first type of fear is danger. When we feel threatened or that our lives are in harm’s way, to face fear is much more difficult. In this situation, it’s not in your head and is safety-oriented.
Any trauma from the past can stay with you long after the event has passed, leaving you with intrinsic fears. Whether it be one major event or repeating patterns, it causes fear.
This is the type of fear that is, well, imagined, and the creation of your own self-talk. This fear leaves us wondering about the future and has us speculating about events outside our control. It’s imagined fear that causes us the most problems.
There are two ways that fear can show up, and identifying them will be the first step to face fear. Fear can result in emotional or physical symptoms. Let’s go through them below.
Fear can show up emotionally. This means that it takes the form of stress, anxiety, or disconnection. You may push people away or keep boundaries from letting people get too close to you. For example, I struggled the most with worrying about what others think or perceive about me. That was dominant in my past, and this fear kept me stuck. It wasn’t until I started to change my perception and thought patterns (which I’ll teach you today) that this fear left.
Fear can result in physical symptoms, too. In this way, you may notice a tightening in your chest or that your face gets red when triggered.
In either scenario, it’s important to note when either of these ways appears since it’s a tell-tale sign that fear drives the behavior.
The first place to start with overcoming fear is to identify the emotional and physical fears you have. Here’s what that looks like for different areas they manifest in.
When you fear the future, you’ll likely experience physical symptoms along with the following emotional ones. Questions that show you triggered it are:
This is a common fear that manifests in close relationships. Here are some ways it could show up:
These fears are around the way you are romantic with your partner. You will project these fears and anxieties onto your partner, causing problems when it’s really inside of you. Here are some thought signals:
While all parents worry and have fear from time to time about their children, there are ways it can progress to be unhealthy. The result is not being able to connect to your child emotionally. Here are a few ways this fear shows up:
Now that we’ve covered all the ways that fear can hold you prisoner, in your life, let’s go over how fear can be positive with my 3 favorite tips to face then release it. Ready? I bet ya are!
Take the fears. Write them out. Figure out what to do about them.
Now that you have a few tips for the next time fear shows up, you can work through it and overcome it. I hope you take from today how to identify what you think fear is and what it actually is. This will help you let go of the fear once and for all.