#192 How To Tell The Difference In Your Inner Critic Versus Your Inner Voice

We’ll discuss the distinction between your inner critic and your inner voice, also known as your inner direction. Some individuals refer to this inner voice as their gut feeling or intuition, while others call it their inner critic.

We’ll also look into several scenarios in which you might notice the differences and discuss the method for doing so. I will also share tips that work well for me.

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6 Simple Ways to Build a Healthy Relationship

Relationships can either make or break you. So if you’re wondering, “Am I in a healthy relationship,” this is for you. Often, couples associate healthy relationships with perfection. However, the feeling that your relationship isn’t perfect can make you question your connection with your partner. So, the million-dollar question is: how to build a healthy […]

What you need to know about Gender Identity Inflating and Narrowing

Even the most caring and supportive providers may not be aware of how dangerous identity inflation and identity narrowing can be for their transgender and nonbinary clients.   Let’s start by defining these two terms. Inflating is when something is increased or enlarged by an excessive amount. Narrowing is defined as making something more limited or […]

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How Long Does the Honeymoon Phase Last?

Dr. Kristie Overstreet contributes to the honeymoon phase and what to do when it ends. Article by Carleigh Ferrante for The EveryGirl. So, you’ve gone through all of the excitement of the honeymoon phase. Those magical feelings have you on top of the world, but how long does this phase last? Let’s look at the […]

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Bumble – Expert Tips for Date #2

Dr. Kristie Overstreet contributes to dating tips on the second date. Article by Ali Drucker for Bumble. Have you thought about what you should do on that second date? Do you ask the deeper questions or set back and see what happens? Get ready to improve your second date expertise. Ask the questions It’s okay […]

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Sleep Hacks for Couples in Relationships

Dr. Kristie Overstreet contributes to why couples may benefit from sleeping separately. Article by Jaime Osnato for LIVESTRONG. Have you ever thought of the benefits from sleeping in separate beds? Maybe you do not realize how it could improve your overall health. Keep reading! Benefits of Sleeping in Separate Beds You know the saying “absence […]

3 common mistakes LGBTQIA+ allies make (and often don’t realize it)

I see you out there, making a difference in the world. For example, when you hear a transphobic remark you speak up or you educate those around you by sharing an interesting fact that you recently read about sexuality.  Your heart is in the right place, and your passion for equality shines through, but even […]

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The Sex Was Bad, Now What?

Dr. Kristie Overstreet contributes to what to do when the sex is bad. Article by Carleigh Ferrante for The EveryGirl. So, you’ve gone through all of the hard work of landing the dates, now as things build-up, so do your expectations. You’ve got an idea of how intimacy will be, but what happens when the […]

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7 Brutally Honest Stages of Getting Back With Your Ex

Dr. Kristie Overstreet contributes to the brutal honest stages of getting back with your ex. Article by Iman Hariri-Kia and Mia Sherin for Elite Daily. We’ve all thought about it; some of us have even tried it…giving an ex a second (maybe third, fourth) chance. Of course, there’s no way to know how the do-over […]

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5 Ways to Increase Emotional Intimacy for Relationship Success

Do you feel disconnected from your partner? Maybe you’re not having sex as often as you once did. Maybe you aren’t being as affectionate. Or, maybe, you’re just feeling distant from them overall. If any of this sounds familiar, you’re most likely struggling with intimacy.  This is a common situation many couples find themselves in. […]

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How Your Body Image Affects Your Sexual Self-Esteem

When you think about physical yourself, do you feel confident, or do you feel insecure? The answer to this question unlocks the root of the issue we’ll be exploring today; how body image affects sexual self-esteem. My mission is to guide you in understanding the role body image plays in our sex lives’ satisfaction and […]

Here’s How To Know You’re In A Toxic Relationship

Do you feel your relationship is slowly causing you to lose connection to who you are? Have you often felt like your relationship has become one-sided with little effort on your partner’s end? Or even worse, do you have family and friends telling you that your relationship isn’t healthy and that you should end things?

If any of these are ringing true for you, there’s a chance you could be in a toxic relationship. To know for sure, today’s post will guide you through some of the toxic relationship patterns I see in my work with clients and the true costs of what these relationships can do to you if you stay in them.

5 Ways To Gain Confidence In Relationships

Do you struggle with confidence in your relationship? Is it hard to accept compliments from a loved one? If you’re sitting there, shaking your head yes, then know you’re not alone.

Struggles with confidence in relationships aren’t uncommon. In fact, it’s one of the main things I work on with clients; however, you can overcome these struggles.

In this post, I will help you to do just that. Below you’ll find out how self-confidence and success in relationships go hand-in-hand, how to overcome negative self-talk, and my 5 must-know tips to boost your self-esteem.

Learn Where Fear Comes From & 3 Tips To Overcome It

Do you ever feel controlled by fear? Like you can’t move forward because worry has a stronghold on you? Whether it’s real or imagined, fear can make you feel stuck, and that’s not a spot any of us want to be in. I, most importantly, don’t want you to be there. That’s why in today’s post, I’ll review what causes fear, the types of fear that exist, and provide 3 tips to face your fear.

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3 Things About Intimacy That You Need to Know

Have you ever heard a word and thought, what the heck does it mean anyway? That’s how I use to feel every time I saw the word ‘intimacy.’

Intimacy means sex, or does it? That can’t be all it means, or they would say sex, not intimacy, right?

5 Budget-Friendly Ways to Look and Feel Your Best Post-Pandemic

Though the pandemic has wreaked havoc on communities around the world, it finally seems like the fog is lifting. But if being under lockdown has disrupted not just your life but also your health and wellness routine, it’s time to start feeling like yourself again. Here are five cheap and even free ways to start feeling—and looking—better than ever.

5 Secrets to Worrying Less About What Other People Think

So, there you are, stuck in your head with worry about, “What will they think?”

You worry that they will think less of you. You think they’ll judge you.

Emotional Versus Sexual Intimacy: Why You Need to Know The Difference

As a young adult, were you ever told that there’s a difference in emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy? If you figured it out early in your life, you’re one of the few lucky ones.

5 Ways to Create Healthy Habits

It’s about that time of year where we start to look back at the goals we set in January. Have we lived up to the expectations of our resolutions? Making changes to our lifestyles can be hard to maintain, especially if you set an unattainable time table. Instead, it’s essential to create goals based upon habit creations, which allows for an understanding of time and attention. Here are some tips for creating healthy habits that last.

Deal and Heal Your Resentment

If you’re feeling frustrated at your partner or someone in your life and no matter what they do, you can’t shake your anger. Maybe you feel disconnected from them or even avoid them whenever possible.

As time passes, you feel more and more resentment towards them. You don’t want to forgive them because that would mean you’re okay with their behavior, but you don’t want to continue experiencing the hurt and pain.

Here’s what you need to know about dealing and healing your resentment.

3 Lies You’ve Been Told About Relationships

Netflix, movies, and social media are full of examples of unrealistic relationships and romantic encounters. Are people that post their cute pics on social media really that happy, or was it staged?

Sure, some are, relationships are real as they are depicted on social media, and some aren’t. Here are three of the best lies that are out there about relationships.

4 Tips to Your Healthiest Holiday Season

The holiday season is well underway, and we’re coming to a close in 2019. The year has flown by and if you’re excited about the holiday, don’t forget to prioritize your health.

Between the travel and food, it’s important that you prioritize your health this holiday season. Take a look at a few of my tips to help you enjoy the festive season to the fullest.

4 Ways to Improve Your Self-Care Routine for 2020

The year is coming to a close, and that means it’s time to start focusing on your self-care going into the new year and new decade.

Following a routine is tough for many people, and sticking to it is just as difficult as any other New Years’ resolution you try to stick to. With that being said, here are my best tips for improving your self-care regime this upcoming year to ensure you focus enough on yourself in 2020.

5 Reasons You Need to Share Your Needs Immediately

Have you ever wanted to speak up for something you needed and felt stuck?

Did you want to say how you were feeling, but felt like you couldn’t?

Your struggle with speaking up for your needs must be addressed today. You don’t have the luxury of going another day without getting your needs met. If you continue to avoid discussing your needs, you’ll continue to feel unhappy, which can lead to resentment.

I know that sharing your needs can be scary because it is forcing you to be vulnerable. What if you tell someone what you need and they don’t care? What if you share your needs and they don’t meet it? This can lead you to have to make a decision about your relationship with them. Here are five reasons why you need to speak up for your needs immediately.

Some People Excel at Setting Boundaries, and Others Don’t – Which One Are You?

Do you ever wonder why some people in your life have no problem setting boundaries, and you do? Do you ever think if your life would be different if you created healthy boundaries?

If boundaries were comfortable for us to create, then the majority of humans would have healthy relationships. Since this isn’t the case, we must look at our ability or difficulty setting boundaries with the people in our lives.

I’ll share with you why you need to care about boundaries, what they are, how to create them, and why you need to excel at them.

9 Ways to Silence Your Inner Critic

Do you ever have those days when your self-talk takes a downward plunge? Regardless of how great life may be going, your negative narrative can come out of nowhere. No matter how confident or not you may be, your inner critic can show up in a big way.

Since snapping your fingers and expecting your negative self-talk disappear won’t work, there are techniques to turn down the volume. Here are nine ways to silence your inner critic that can help you make a change starting today.

5 Tips to Figure Out Your Needs

Why is difficult for us to figure out our needs? The mystery of who we are and what we need can keep us from evolving into our best selves.

Whether you haven’t had time, haven’t thought about it, or you spend all of your time taking care of other people, you are responsible for knowing your needs. If you are struggling to get started, here are my favorite tips to get your gears rolling.

Can Comparing Yourself to Others Help Versus Hurt You?

Let’s face it; we all compare ourselves to others. Whether it’s at work, in social settings, or our relationships, we compare ourselves to others. The problem comes when you compare yourself harshly, and it causes you to see yourself in a negative light.

I know your goal is to focus on self-change to get the life you desire. One way to do this is to make something you are already going to do like comparing yourself work for you versus work against you. Here are my tips on how to make it work in your favor.

5 Reasons You Are Good Enough

If you question your worthiness or struggle to realize how great you are, then get ready for change. Every one of us could use a reminder now and then. That time is now, so get ready to realize my favorite five reasons of why you are good enough and worthy of greatness.

5 Signs Your Relationship is Toxic

It’s easier to see issues in other people’s relationships versus looking at your own. How much heartache would you save yourself if you were able to identify if your relationship is toxic now versus later?

If you are ready to evaluate your relationship, then keep reading. Save yourself by recognizing if your relationship isn’t healthy by any of these five signs.

3 Ways I Avoid Procrastination

Procrastination can kill motivation to accomplish your goals. If you struggle to accomplish a task until the last minute, you aren’t alone. In the past, I use to avoid things I needed to do until the very last minute. Whether it was a project that was due or an activity that I had to complete, I thought I worked better under pressure. I was wrong.

I realized that I became more stressed and anxious when I waited. Even though I completed the task, the stress I experienced took a toll on my body. Through the years, I began to use the following three things to stop procrastinating and am now more productive than ever.

Guest Post: Becoming Stronger by Embracing Your Weaknesses

Although it may be hard to accept, everything we do in life may won’t always come with ease. We aren’t all made the same, and how we look, act, and perform will all vary. However, over time, constantly comparing ourselves to others can actually distort our self-image and worsen our weaknesses. When you choose to embrace and understand your character flaws rather than dwelling on them, you’ll begin to feel more liberated.

It may come as a shock, but keep reading to learn about what can happen when you begin to embrace yourself for who you are.

Guest Post: How a Swingers Club Led Me to Feel Empowered

This is the first of many guest post that I will be sharing with you. Everyone’s journey looks different, but I find that I can learn something from everyone’s story.

This particular one is about a friend of mine’s experience in a Swinger’s Club and how she learned more about herself than she ever thought possible.

What Are You Fearful Of?

“Fear is only as deep as the mind allows.”

– Japanese Proverb

If this proverb doesn’t rock your world, then I don’t know what will. I came across it a few weeks ago, and I have been thinking a lot about the role fear plays in my life.

How to Take the Stress Out of Your To-Do List?

I bet you have at least one to-do list. Maybe you have so many to-do lists that you now have a stack. If you are feeling unproductive and overwhelmed with all of your tasks, it’s time for a makeover. You aren’t getting tasks marked off your list because you are working harder than you have to. Does that sound crazy? If so, let me walk you through it.

11 Life Lessons I Learned in 2018

“Only those that sleep make no mistakes.”

I love this quote by Ingvar Kamprad, founder of Ikea because it sums up the past year. Mistakes, celebrations, loss, and life lessons are how I will remember 2018.

I have learned more about my strengths and weaknesses than any year in the past. It also helped me grow personally and professionally. I find it helpful at the end of each year to look back at what I have learned and how far I’ve come. Here are the 11 life lessons that I learned in 2018.

Should You Be Judged by the Type of People in Your Life?

If you are a reflection of the type of people you surround yourself with, what does that say about you? The kind of person you allow to be in your life whether it’s a friendship or relationship says a lot about you.

You are judged by the type of people you are around. Before you say that you don’t care what others think about you, stop and ask yourself if you care who is in your life.

Daily Self-Esteem Checklist

If you want more confidence and better self-esteem, are you willing to work on it daily?

We form healthy habits by taking small steps every day. These small steps add up to significant results.

If you are ready to grow, here is a daily checklist to get you started.

7 Questions to Ask Yourself When You Need to Feel Inspired

Inspiration doesn’t fall out of the sky. Sometimes you have to take action to find it. If you are ready to dig deep, here are seven questions that will help you find the inspiration you desire.

5 Tips to Stay Balanced When You Are Busy

Feeling overwhelmed by your schedule and to-do list? Are you hard on yourself because you think you aren’t getting enough accomplished?

If you laugh at the idea of a balanced life, I get it because I use to do the same thing.

Life is hectic, but it’s still our responsibility to stay balanced. From one busy person to another, here are five proven tips to help you find balance.

3 Things I Learned From Unhappy Couples

I was fortunate to grow up in a home where communication was valued. I know how lucky and blessed I am to have been given this gift. My parent’s ability to communicate with me and one another wasn’t perfect, but it provided me with a template for future relationships.

How to Take the Stress Out of Decision Making?

What was the last big decision you had to make? Did you agonize over it or was it easy to decide what to do? The process of making decisions can feel like it’s an art form. In reality, making the best choice for yourself doesn’t have to be as difficult as you think.

5 Types of Emotional Vampires to Avoid

Your time and energy are a hot commodity. Your schedule and goals keep you busy, so you don’t have time to sacrifice any emotional energy. You need to reserve and spend it on the important people in your life.

How to Avoid Losing Yourself in a Relationship?

You want a healthy relationship, but you also know the importance of remaining an individual. You fall in love, experience the honeymoon phase, and then the reality of the long-term relationship begins. It can be easy to lose your individuality and sense of self especially as the years pass.

Lessons I Learned From My Dog

I was fortunate enough to grow up on a farm and surrounded by animals. I have always been an animal lover but having a dog has taught me many life lessons. After years of education, Apollo has bestowed more knowledge, wisdom, and insight than a classroom ever could.

How to Stop Self-Sabotage For Good?

Do you feel that when life is going in a right direction, something comes along and derails your plan? Life has a funny way of reminding us that often we aren’t as in charge as we like to think. Sometimes external forces throw a monkey wrench in our plans. Other times we are the ones who sabotage areas of our lives.

5 Tips to Be More Productive with Less Time

On more than one occasion I have thought If I could just have an extra hour in the day I could get more done. If there were 25 hours in the day would I be more productive? This question stopped me in my tracks and gave me the opportunity to make a change in my life.

How to Accomplish a Goal When You Have Zero Motivation

Your to-do list grows by the day and it seems like you rarely can mark anything off as completed. You set goals for yourself in your career, health, or relationships and just can’t make enough progress for it to be worth it. If you are feeling stuck in a rut and can’t move forward, it’s time to hit the refresh button in your life. Here are a few steps on how to accomplish a goal when you feel zero motivation.

7 Tips to Help You Focus on Your Goals

In my last post, I talked about how to overcome your self-doubt. Now it’s time for you to add a few new tips to help you focus or re-focus on your goal. Have you ever set a goal and felt motivated the first day? Then as the days turn into weeks then into months, your motivation fades. This loss of motivation can lead you to beat yourself up and add to your negative self-talk about how you can’t achieve anything. It’s time to overcome this narrative and put a new plan in place. These 7 tips will help you focus on any goal you want to accomplish.

How to Silence Your Self-Doubt?

In my last post, I shared how to turn your New Year’s resolution into a lifestyle change. This week I want you to learn how to silence your self-doubt. Your self-doubt can debilitate you from accomplishing your goals.

You have worked hard to create your goals so don’t let your self-doubt bury them. To do this, you need to understand how self-doubt attacks you and how you can silence if for good.

Dump Your New Years Resolution For a Lifestyle Change

In last week’s post, I provided you with evidence of why you are good enough and can tackle anything in your life. This week in preparation for the end of 2017, I want you to avoid a New Year’s resolution and adopt a lifestyle change.

5 Reminders of Why You Are Good Enough

In last week’s post, I shared how you can use failure as a pivot and motivation to find a new opportunity. This week I want to remind you that you are good enough. You can improve your self-esteem, self-image, and the narrative in your mind with these reminders.

Failure is Just a Chance to Pivot

In last week’s post, I shared three steps on how to overcome your fear and get on with your life. Now that you have moved through your fears, it’s time to work on failure. Every one of us fail at things. Whether it is a relationship, friendship, work expectation, maybe even a goal that is set for the day. I fail at something every single day. Some of my failures are small and others are huge.

3 Steps to Overcome Your Fears and Get On with Your Life

You feel frustrated and irritated that you can’t accomplish your goals. You can’t figure out why you keep hitting a road block. Do you feel that you give it your all and you still can’t complete your goals? Have you thought about changing jobs? Have you tried to lose weight but can’t? Do you want to leave your unhealthy relationship but can’t decide what’s best?

How to Get an Extra Hour Out of Your Day?

You are time poor. There aren’t enough hours in the day to get everything done that you want to accomplish. Your to-do list is growing by the minute and the plates you keep spinning seem to double in size. It’s likely that the last thing that you have time for is yourself. 

What if I told you that it is possible to find an extra hour in the day just for you? This will take a little work but it will be worth it.

Discover 7 New Ways to Improve Trust

It can take a long time to build trust in a relationship, but it can be lost within a few minutes. It’s important that you have trust within yourself and your relationships. If you have ever struggled with trust in a relationship, here are 7 new ways to challenge your view of it.

3 Rules of Being a “Good Girl” You Should Break

As females we learn how we should behave, think, talk, act, and live our life. These teachings come from our parents, family system, community we grow up in, and society as a whole. As we grow up, we form our own personal narrative of how we should conduct ourselves. I want to challenge your personal narrative of how you should live your life, especially if it isn’t helping you today. 

A Reality Check For When You Fail

Do you sometimes avoid trying because you are fearful that you will fail? You may view failure as something to avoid at all cost. I want to challenge how you view failure and help you use failure as an opportunity.

10 Ways to Improve the Relationship with Yourself

Everyone wants to be confident and have self-esteem. Imagine how much easier life would be if you could buy it from Amazon. Until that day comes, you will need to put the work in to improve your confidence. The time has come for you to stop waiting and wishing that you felt better. Give yourself permission to start today. Here are a few things you can do to improve your self-esteem.

7 Things I Do Every Day to Stay Sane

These 7 things are what I do every day to keep me grounded in a chaotic world.

3 Great Excuses to Not Be Honest with Yourself

As a therapist for over a decade, I am privileged to see a lot of human behavior. I like to think of it as the good, the bad, and the ugly. I have the opportunity to hear people’s darkest secrets and dirty laundry that often no one else will ever know. This is a gift from my clients that I don’t take lightly and cherish the confidential nature of our relationship.

3 Ways to Get Out of Your Head

Do you ever get stuck in your head and can’t get out? It’s easy to become locked in a thought or obsess about something, which can lead you to feeling helpless. Here are 3 ways to get out of your head and get on with your life.

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The Two Words That Will Improve Your Relationship Immediately

Your probably doubting that two words could make a big difference in your relationship. Thank You are two of the most powerful words that can improve your relationship immediately. I challenge you to give it a try you will see improvements.

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10 Ways to Improve Your Confidence Today

As a therapist, I get the opportunity to spend time with people who want to make needed changes in their life. They invest time out of their busy days to do what it takes to meet their goals.

Lack of confidence is one of the biggest issues that people face. You may not realize that your lack of confidence is the underlining problem that has to be fixed so that the other areas of your life can improve.

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5 Mistakes to Avoid in Life

In a perfect world we wouldn’t make mistakes but none of us have the luxury of perfection, so we manage the best we can. We have the opportunity to learn from the mistakes we make as well as the ability to not repeat them.

There are thousands of mistakes we can make, but here are 5 easy mistakes to make that can have a big impact on life.

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3 Tips to Be More Attractive and Improve Your Life

Everyday I get the opportunity to spend time with beautiful people. My clients give me the gift of joining them through self-discovery. I learn something new about myself everyday through others experiences.

Let’s face it, who would really turn down the possibility of becoming more attractive and the ability to improve their life? Here are 3 tips to help you do it!

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Trying to Trust Again? 3 Questions to Ask Yourself

Trust…the five letter word that takes so long to earn and can be lost within a few seconds. As a couple’s therapist, I can’t recall one issue that has walked through my door that didn’t have a bit of trust issue in it. This post focuses on the partner who was hurt and struggling with trust.

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How to Get Out of Your Own Way

“Your greatest self has been waiting your whole life; don’t make it wait any longer.”

Dr. Steve Maraboli

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How to Say “No” Without Coming Off Like a Jerk

Do you have a hard time saying “No” when people ask something of you? Do you wish that it were easier to say “No” to people?

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4 Irrational Fears That Stop You

As a therapist, people come into my office for a variety of reasons. They do not come into my office on a daily basis because they only want to chat. Sure, it’s nice to have someone to talk with, however, my clients have a purpose for visiting me.