#164 Exploring Your Sexuality through Erotica with Ruan Willow

Where there are human beings, there are relationships. And where there are relationships, there is sex. For every human being, there is a different turn-on. Some people respond to the different parts of the body, but there are also many people who get turned on by what they read.  Erotica has given many people permission to explore their own feelings and sexual fantasies without shame.  

In this episode, we are joined by an erotica writer and podcaster under the pen name Ruan Willow. She has written romance and erotic romance books and even started her own publishing house. We talk about normalizing fantasy desire and our own connection with ourselves and how erotica has allowed people to be able to get carried away with their own sense of imagination and imaginary play.

We discuss:

• Why Ruan is writing under a pen name and has kept herself anonymous
• How she manages to be a blogger, influencer, and an author all at the same time
• What erotica is and why Ruan is so passionate about it
• The different sub-genres of erotica
• Discovering what turns you on through erotic novels
• How erotica takes you on a self-awareness and self-pleasure journey and helps you figure out what feels good for you
• Finding inspiration for erotica novels
• Ruan’s early journey to writing and self-acceptance
• Shedding shame and being at a place of comfort with whatever excites her
• 50 Shades of Grey mainstreaming erotica
• Creating her own publishing house to give her more control over what she writes

After listening to this episode, you’ll be more accepting of yourself and your sexuality. There’s no shame in finding out what sexually charges you.

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Links Mentioned in this Episode

Ruan Willow on Instagram

Oh F*Ck Yeah Podcast with Ruan Willow

Ruan’s Beach Getaway

Dr. Kristie on Instagram