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#171 How your Attachment Style Influences Sex & Intimacy?

Boredom is a common problem couples face, especially those in long-term relationships. But you don’t have to be bored. Luckily, in this episode, Dr. Kristie talks about simple and practical steps that you can take to spice up a relationship that has gone stale.

#170 Ways to Stop Arguing and Resolve the Issue

Boredom is a common problem couples face, especially those in long-term relationships. But you don’t have to be bored. Luckily, in this episode, Dr. Kristie talks about simple and practical steps that you can take to spice up a relationship that has gone stale.

#169 How Relationship Equality Can Improve Intimacy?

Boredom is a common problem couples face, especially those in long-term relationships. But you don’t have to be bored. Luckily, in this episode, Dr. Kristie talks about simple and practical steps that you can take to spice up a relationship that has gone stale.

#168 Why Relationships Don’t Have To Be As Hard As We Make Them

Boredom is a common problem couples face, especially those in long-term relationships. But you don’t have to be bored. Luckily, in this episode, Dr. Kristie talks about simple and practical steps that you can take to spice up a relationship that has gone stale.

#167 Feeling Bored in Your Relationship? Try These Hacks!

Boredom is a common problem couples face, especially those in long-term relationships. But you don’t have to be bored. Luckily, in this episode, Dr. Kristie talks about simple and practical steps that you can take to spice up a relationship that has gone stale.

#165 Taking Control of How People Treat You

Have you ever had someone hurt you so bad but felt like there’s nothing you can do about it? I want to let you know that you have the power to do something about it. How people treat you is 100% in your hands. That is the philosophy behind Fix Yourself First is to take this power, embrace it, and gain control over yourself.

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#164 Exploring Your Sexuality through Erotica with Ruan Willow

In this episode, we are joined by an erotica writer and podcaster under the pen name Ruan Willow. She has written romance and erotic romance books and even started her own publishing house. We talk about normalizing fantasy desire and our own connection with ourselves and how erotica has allowed people to be able to get carried away with their own sense of imagination and imaginary play.

Fix Yourself First Episode 161 Finding Love Again After a Toxic Divorce with Lisa & Chris

#161 Finding Love Again After a Toxic Divorce with Lisa & Chris

Join me for a conversation with Lisa and Chris, co-founders of Been There Got Out, to discuss their journey of finding love and hope after high-conflict divorces. They started with a friendship that soon developed into a loving and romantic relationship and they are sharing their journey here.

Fix Yourself First Episode 160 What Confident Communication Really Is & How to Build It

#160 What Confident Communication Really Is & How to Build It

In today’s episode, I’m explaining what is confident communication and how to build it.

Fix Yourself First Episode 154 Healing & Moving Forward with Janice Formichella

#154 Healing & Moving Forward with Janice Formichella

In this episode, I’m chatting with Janice Formichella. She is the creator of the Broken Heart Repair Kit and has support and advice on how to help when going through a breakup.

Fix Yourself First Episode 153 Is Overthinking Causing Relationship Anxiety?

#153 Is Overthinking Causing Relationship Anxiety?

In this week’s episode, you’ll learn about relationship anxiety and how it shows up in our relationships. The last place you need more anxiety is your relationships because they feel difficult enough at times.

Fix Yourself First Episode 148 Keeping Intimacy Alive Long Term by Kim Jefferson

#148 Keeping Intimacy Alive Long Term by Kim Jefferson

In this special episode, I’m the one on the hot seat with Kim Jefferson from the Fit Girl Magic podcast, where she interviews me about all things sex, intimacy, and communication in long-term relationships. You’re not going to want to miss this informative and action-packed episode.

Fix Yourself First Episode 147 How to Survive a High-Conflict Divorce with Lisa Johnson

#147 How to Survive a High-Conflict Divorce with Lisa Johnson

If it’s not you, then I know you’ve got a friend or family member who is struggling in their marriage. Since we’ve all had different experiences in our relationships as well as the families we grew up in, some of us are more likely to stay in unhealthy relationships than others. You’ll learn that you’re not alone and that you deserve a better relationship with yourself and others.

Fix Yourself First Episode 141 5 Tips for Surviving on Your Own Regardless of Your Relationship Status

#141 5 Tips for Surviving on Your Own Regardless of Your Relationship Status

In this episode, I’m giving you my 5 tips to help you be okay, regardless of who is in or out of your life. Trusting yourself, needed boundaries, and self-prioritization, you’ll find these tips helpful.

Fix Yourself First Episode 139 5 Proven Communication Tips to Try Today

#139 5 Proven Communication Tips to Try Today

In this episode, I’m giving you 5 easy to apply tips that you can start using today to be a better communicator. Each of these tips are proven to work and they’re just waiting on you to give them a try.

Fix Yourself First Episode 137 Listener Questions Answered: Couples Intimacy + Communication Issues

#137 Listener Questions Answered: Couples Intimacy + Communication Issues

In this week’s episode, listener questions are answered on intimacy and communication in relationships.

Fix Yourself First Episode 131 Sexual Self-Esteem, Desire Differences, & A Sexless Marriage by Shivonne Davis

#131 Sexual Self-Esteem, Desire Differences, & A Sexless Marriage by Shivonne Davis

In this week’s episode, Shivonne Davis, from the Millennial Marriage Toolkit Summit, interviews Dr. Kristie on all things sex and marriage. We discuss developing your sexual self-esteem, communicating about sex, navigating desire differences, what makes a sexless marriage, and how to bring sexual collaboration into your relationship.

Fix Yourself First Episode 126 11 Ways We Use Sex

#126 11 Ways We Use Sex

In this episode, I’m sharing the 11 roles of sex and the different reasons we use each.

Fix Yourself First Episode 125 Why You Need a Sexual Buffet

#125 Why You Need a Sexual Buffet

In this episode, I’m covering why you need a sexual buffet and how you can build one in your relationship. Get ready to have options other than just what you think “sex” is supposed to be.

Fix Yourself First Episode 124 Ending the Constant Conflict Cycle

#124 Ending the Constant Conflict Cycle

Have you ever been stuck in a constant conflict cycle? Where the same issue keeps getting brought up and no matter what you do, you can’t get unstuck. In this episode, I’ll share with you how to identify and get out of or stop a Constant Conflict Cycle.

Fix Yourself First Episode 123 5 Myths About Sex + Relationships You Need to Stop Believing

#123 5 Myths About Sex + Relationships You Need to Stop Believing

In this episode, I’m sharing with you the 5 myths that you may still be believing about sex that are negatively affecting you and your relationships. From desire differences to defining sex, you’ll learn the truth about these myths which will help you improve your relationships.

Fix Yourself First Episode 122 Your Communication Style & How It Affects Your Relationships

#122 Your Communication Style & How It Affects Your Relationships

In this episode, you’ll learn about the four different communication styles, which one you relate to, and how it affects your relationships. From communication to boundaries, you don’t want to miss this one.

Fix Yourself First Episode 121 Do I Stay or Do I Go? 3 Ways to Help You Decide

#121 Do I Stay or Do I Go? 3 Ways to Help You Decide

Thinking about ending your relationship or can’t decide if you need to stay or go? In this episode, I’m sharing 3 exercises you can do to help you navigate your decision. These will help you feel more confident in your decision, as well as help you think about what’s possible for your future, with or without your partner.

Fix Yourself First Episode 120 Breaking Down the REAL Issue in Your Relationship

#120 Breaking Down the REAL Issue in Your Relationship

In this episode, I’ll help you look past what’s on the surface and focus on the root of the problem, which is trust. I’ll give you my framework for how you can improve trust in your relationship today.

Fix Yourself First Episode 109 Hot Take: Actions Versus Words

#109 Hot Take: Actions Versus Words

In this week’s Hot Take episode of FYF, I’m sharing how to get trust back in your relationship by focusing on your ACTIONS, more than your words.

Fix Yourself First Episode 107 Hot Take: Healing After Infidelity

#107 Hot Take: Healing After Infidelity

If you’ve ever been cheated on or were the one doing the treating, don’t miss this hot take episode. I’m sharing my go-to tips on how to heal after infidelity if you want to repair the relationship.

Fix Yourself First Episode 106 Sexual Self-Esteem For Men with Martin Fretwell

#106 Sexual Self-Esteem For Men with Martin Fretwell

In this episode with Martin Fretwell, we discuss his journey with mental health, sexual health, and pleasure as well as why it’s so difficult to have this conversation in men’s spaces. Don’t miss our discussion on all things about men’s sexual health.

Fix Yourself First Episode 104 More Than A Mom with Lindsey Spelyng

#104 More Than A Mom with Lindsey Spelyng

In this episode, I’m chatting with Lindsey Spelyng, founder + CEO of MamaCommon, a membership platform for growth-minded and time-strapped women to flourish in all seasons of motherhood. She celebrates authenticity and vulnerability in herself and others more than anything, which is what she’s creating in her community.

Fix Yourself First Episode 102 STI Awareness with Courtney Brame

#102 STI Awareness with Courtney Brame

In this episode, I’m interviewing Courtney Brame, founder of Something Positive for Positive People, an organization advocating for the integration of post-STI diagnosis support resources and STD prevention efforts while connecting people struggling with STI stigma to mental health resources. We discuss stigma, discrimination, what to do post-diagnosis, communication about your diagnosis, and much more in our open chat about STIs.

Fix Yourself First Episode 101 Attachment Styles, Resentment, Boundaries, & Communication with Dr. Kristie

#101 Attachment Styles, Resentment, Boundaries, & Communication with Dr. Kristie

Ever wondered what your attachment style, resentment, boundaries and communication have to do with sex? In this special episode today, I’m sharing my interview from the I’m Not Late; You’re Just Early podcast, hosted by Sabrina Parmar. Don’t miss our conversation to help you improve not just your relationships, but the one with yourself as well!

Fix Yourself First Episode 98 Turning Down Your Inner Critic

#98 Turning Down Your Inner Critic

In this episode, I’ll teach you how our inner critic has a big effect on both our emotional and sexual selves as well as how you can begin to re-write the narrative. When you feel more in control of your thoughts and beliefs, your inner critic will be empowered to help you build a better relationship with yourself and others.

Fix Yourself First Episode 97 Talking with Your Kids About Sex

#97 Talking with Your Kids About Sex

In this episode, I’m covering how to talk to your kids about sex. From not knowing what to say, or how to say it, to figuring out at what age parents should start talking to their kids about sex, this episode will help parents navigate that conversation and help deal with the uncomfortability of talking about their own sexuality and sexual selves.

Fix Yourself First Episode 95 Get It Together with Eirene Heidelberger

#95 Get It Together with Eirene Heidelberger

In this episode, I chat with Eirene Hiedelberger. She runs a full-service parent coaching firm dedicated to helping Moms “Get It Together.” Because if mama isn’t happy, then no one is!

Fix Yourself First Episode 93 6 Requirements of a Healthy Relationship

#93 6 Requirements of a Healthy Relationship

In this episode, I’m sharing the 6 requirements of a healthy relationship. If you want a simple plan to get your relationship or future relationship in shape, don’t miss this one.

Fix Yourself First Episode 92 Ethical Non-Monogamy with Gabrielle Smith

#92 Ethical Non-Monogamy with Gabrielle Smith

In this week’s episode, Gabrielle Smith shares what you need to know about ethical non-monogamy, her journey, and what most people get wrong about opening up their relationships.

Fix Yourself First Episode 87 Dating in the Pandemic with Zach Schleien

#87 Dating in the Pandemic with Zach Schleien

In this episode, I chat with Zach Schleien, Co-founder/CEO of the video speed dating app, Filter Off. You’re going to love our conversation about how this app will change the dating world forever. No more filters or BS, with this app. An authentic connection awaits, if you’re ready to change how you view dating.

Fix Yourself First Episode 84 How Your Inner Child Affects Your Relationships with Sharon Land

#84 How Your Inner Child Affects Your Relationships with Sharon Land

In this episode Sharon Land, holistic psychotherapist, spiritualist and intuitive, shares how we can begin to work on our inner child in order to fully embrace our true selves. From quantum metaphysics to tending to your inner child, you’ll learn how to start doing the world today to heal your soul.

Fix Yourself First Episode 83 Relationship OCD with Nathan Peterson

#83 Relationship OCD with Nathan Peterson

In this episode anxiety expert Nathan Peterson shares everything you have ever wanted to know about Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), anxiety, and how it impacts our relationships. We talk in detail about Relationship OCD and how it is different than feeling anxious about our relationships.

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#81 Cheating & Repairing Trust

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#79 Navigating Relationships with Kevin Nahai

Today, I’m chatting with Kevin Nahai, speaker and coach. He and I connected and once I heard his story I knew I had to have him on the show. From dealing with a chronic disease to depression, disordered eating, and toxic relationships, he has been able to transform his life, overcome his challenges, and now helps people do the same with his tips and strategies.

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#71 Building and Maintaining Healthy Relationships with Dr. Kristie

Today, I’m chatting with Kevin Nahai, speaker and coach. He and I connected and once I heard his story I knew I had to have him on the show. From dealing with a chronic disease to depression, disordered eating, and toxic relationships, he has been able to transform his life, overcome his challenges, and now helps people do the same with his tips and strategies.

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#67 Figuring Out Your Needs Without the Guilt

Have you ever struggled with figuring out what you need? Does your guilt get in the way of discussing your needs? We all have needs and wants for ourselves as well as in our relationships. Knowing our needs and speaking up for them is the foundation of a healthy relationship. Don’t worry if you’re struggling, I’m going to walk you through my 5 steps to help you figure out your needs without the guilt.

Get ready to explore who you are, your needs, and how to give yourself permission to take action in this episode.

#65 12 Types of Intimacy You’re Looking For

Does it feel like your relationship is missing something? If you’re feeling disconnected from your partner or need to improve trust in your relationship, start by focusing on any of the 12 types of intimacy. In this episode, I’ll share the 12 different types of intimacy that we are looking for in our relationships. From physical intimacy to emotional intimacy, there are several more needs to be met in order to have our healthiest relationship.

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#64 How to Prevent Boredom in Your Relationship

Do you ever feel bored in your relationship or worried you’ll get bored? Long-term relationships can get boring, but you can prevent this from happening, or if this is a struggle now, you can turn it around. In this episode, I’m sharing my five tips that work to prevent boredom in your long-term relationship or how to use these to freshen up things. These tips are proven strategies that I use in my relationship, and thousands of my clients use that make a difference.

#62 Rebuilding Trust & Intimacy After Betrayal with Jennifer Lehr

Have you ever been cheated on or betrayed by your partner? Cheating, infidelity, and betrayal can damage trust in a relationship. But what if you’re trying to figure out if you want to give your partner another chance, how do you make the best decision. What if you’re the person that cheated on your partner? How do you come to terms and win back trust?

Join me in this episode for my chat with Jennifer Lehr, marriage and family therapist, as well as the creator of WeConcile. Jennifer’s mission is to help others create a life and relationship full of love and joy. We discuss what to do if you find out your partner is cheating, the different types of cheating, what steps to take to repair trust, and the difference in cheating and betrayal.

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#60 Breakups, Dating, and Divorce with Elliott Davis

Are you going through or have experienced a breakup or divorce and wanting to get your life back on track? In this episode, Elliott Davis, a values-based relationship coach, shares his journey and insight into helping you find the love you’re looking for. He’s helped many people become more self-aware and find self-actualization, which has led to their best lives ever. He shares his journey of divorce, recovering himself, and committing to a new relationship that will leave you empowered and ready to create the new life you deserve.

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#59 Talking About Sex in Your Relationship

How do we learn how to talk about sex? From what we’re taught growing up to our past experiences, we build a narrative about sex and intimacy. Here we are in long-term relationships expecting to talk about, navigate, and have a healthy sexual relationship with not being able to talk about our needs, wants, desires. In this episode, you’ll learn the 11 most common barriers to discussing sex in your relationship and my 11 go-to tips to help you have a better conversation around intimacy.

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#57 How to Dump Your Toxic Resentment

Toxic resentment is a common problem for individuals and couples because many things happen within a relationship to get mad about. Your partner says or does something that hurts you so deep that you think how could I ever get over it.

There’s not a timeline on your pain and hurt, but if it’s toxic for you, meaning it’s affecting areas of your life, you’ll want to decide if you’re going to keep holding on to the pain or dump it. In this episode, I’ll discuss how resentments affect our relationships, the three different types of communication responses, the power of forgiveness, and what you can do to take action to resolve your toxic resentment.

You deserve a happy and healthy relationship, but the only way to get it is to start within.

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#51 The True Cost of Toxic Relationships

Toxic, unhealthy, harmful, destructive…how would you describe your relationship? Whether you’re single or in a relationship, you need to know the warning signs of a toxic relationship. Most people in unhealthy relationships, don’t realize just how bad it is for their mental, emotional, physical, and sexual selves. In this episode, you’ll learn five signs of a toxic relationship and what this type of relationship can do to you. If you’re wondering if your relationship is costing you more than it benefits you, don’t miss this episode.

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#50 How Finances Affects Our Relationships with Christine Teh

In part 3 of the couples series, we’re tackling finances. Should you keep a joint account or separate? What if one person make more than the other? Don’t miss my convo with Christine Teh, a personal finance coach. Christine shares her evolution and passion for helping individuals live the life they love without finances being a stress. We’re responsible as individuals to develop a good relationship with money so we can bring our healthiest self to our relationships. If you’re ready for insight into your finances, check out this episode.

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#48 What Most Couples Get Wrong About Communication

Communication is one of the most common issues that couples deal with. The problem is that most couples get a few things wrong went they try to work on their communication. From the blame game to the argument cycle, to using words that don’t work, I’ll cover the five most common mistakes couples make in this area and what you can do to fix them.

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#47 3 Most Common Relationship Killers

What do communication, sex, and finances have in common? They are the three most common issues that kill relationships. Get ready to learn how vulnerability affects each of these common issues and tips to make changes to your relationship. Your relationship isn’t doomed; it just needs some work. Join me over the next few weeks as we deep dive into why communication, sex, and financial issues can destroy a relationship if they aren’t improved. In this episode, I explain what you can do today to improve communication, sex, and finances in your relationship.

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#43 Finding the Love You’re Looking For with Veronica Grant

Ready to find the love you’re looking for? Your search starts within, but don’t worry because you aren’t alone. In this episode Veronica and I talk about how to go about finding the right person to spend your life with. We cover the importance of inner-child work, body image, self-awareness, codependency, and tools you can use today to improve any relationship you are in. Don’t miss Veronica’s sound advice in this episode.

#39 How Confidence Affects Your Relationship

Do you realize how much your confidence affects your relationship? If you’re ready to dive into ways to improve your confidence, tune in to this episode. From how you see yourself to how your partner sees you, I’m covering everything you need to know about the affect it has on your relationship. Don’t miss the three questions you need to ask yourself and my favorite five tips on improving your confidence, which will improve your relationship.

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#37 Sex vs. Intimacy: Why You Need to Know the Difference

Today, I’m chatting with Kevin Nahai, speaker and coach. He and I connected and once I heard his story I knew I had to have him on the show. From dealing with a chronic disease to depression, disordered eating, and toxic relationships, he has been able to transform his life, overcome his challenges, and now helps people do the same with his tips and strategies.

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#32 Dr. Kristie on Meeting Needs in Relationships

What does a sex therapist have to say about your needs in a relationship?

In this episode, Dr. Kristie is interviewed by Kacie Main about relationship needs and desires. She discusses boundaries, development of focusing on self, the number of chances you give people, and how fear shows up in relationships.

Don’t miss this candid episode of what you need to know to get your needs met.

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#30 5 Questions to Ask Yourself if You Are Considering Ending Your Relationship

So here you are, you have a big decision to make. You know you need to make a change, but you are unsure what to do. You have two options, do you stay in your unhealthy relationship, or do you decide to leave.

In this episode, I share the five questions you need to ask yourself if you are considering ending your relationship. From checking all the boxes to weighing the good versus bad days, don’t miss these exercises to make sure you don’t regret your decision down the road.

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#25 Emotional Management in Relationships with Dr. Robert Cywes

Wondering what a surgeon has to say about the connection of food, relationships, and emotions? In this episode, I chat with Dr. Robert Cywes, who has spent many years recognizing the connection between our emotional management systems, relationships, and how it is connected with the food we eat. From personalities, communication, relationships, anxiety, depression, addiction, food, and feelings, we cover a plethora of topics.

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#22 5 Tips for Couples Who Are Ready to Stop Arguing

Relationship arguments are optional. Every couple has disagreements in their relationships, but they don’t have to turn into an argument. You can stop the cycle of arguing within your relationship. In this episode, I share my top 5 tips for couples who are ready to stop arguing.

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#21 Stop Anxiety From Ruining Your Relationship with Emily Davis

I can’t wait for you to listen to my recent chat with Emily Davis, lover of all things fantasy, magical, and nerdy. She is the author of Damsel No More. We talk about how she applies the strategies of role-play gaming to the life coaching world. After years of surviving relationship abuse, she made it her quest to help women slay their fears and create healthy relationships through creativity and play. Here’s my conversation with Emily on how to stop anxiety from ruining your relationship.

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#18 Ask Me Anything

As a psychotherapist and clinical sexologist, I receive hundreds of emails from people asking questions about every aspect of their lives. From mental health, relationships, sex, gender identity, sexual identity, and many other topics, I enjoy providing my thoughts on these topics. I decided it would be helpful to take a few of your questions and answer them in an Ask Me Anything episode. This one is general topics, and future ones will specifically cover questions about sex and identities.

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#13 3 Secrets to Improve Your Relationship with Anyone

What if you could do something right now, at this moment that would improve your relationships? I can’t give you a magic wand that will make all of your problems in your relationships go away, but I can tell you three secrets that will make things better.

You can create change within your personal and professional relationships. The change you are looking for doesn’t have to be out of reach. Check out this episode and find out the three secrets that can make a big difference.