Fix Yourself First - Episode 52

#52 How to Realize Your Potential with Camille Joyce

Do you ever wonder if you’re living up to your true potential? Have you ever thought that you’re destined for more, but unsure of how to make it happen? If you feel that something or someone is stopping you from being your best, don’t miss this episode with Camille Joyce, soul coach, writer, podcaster, and author. Camille shares her journey of figuring out what was truly possible in both her personal and professional life. From owning your truth to knowing your worth, you’ll feel inspired to take action to find just how special you are.

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#46 The Power of Self-Awareness in Success with RaQuel Hopkins

Self-awareness is critical for personal and relationship growth, but have you ever thought about how it relates to your idea of success? In this episode, RaQuel Hopkins, life and leadership development coach, shares the power of self-awareness as it relates to how you define success. She shares her journey in her professional growth has led to her insight into awareness. She challenges the idea of the complication of success and breaks down the three areas to focus on if we want to succeed in our lives. From a corporate human resource professional to her current journey as a coach, you’ll find this episode motivational and inspirational. Get ready to identify your values and growth opportunities.

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#45 How to Keep Anxiety From Controlling Your Life

Is COVID-19, self-isolating, and being at home all the time, causing you to feel more anxious than usual? With all of the chaos and uncertainty we are experiencing now, anxiety, stress, and worry are at an all-time high. You have more control over your thoughts and feelings than you realize. Join me for this episode, where I discuss the mental-physical connection of anxiety, tips on how to take back control of your self, and the benefits we are experiencing through this crisis. From strategies to decrease stress to practical advice, don’t miss your opportunity to regain control over your thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors.

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#44 Effective Emotional Management with Dr. Robert Cywes

Ready to give your emotional self a workout? In this episode, Dr. Robert Cywes, shares how effort based emotional management can help every aspect of living a healthy life. Dr. Cywes is much more than a surgeon. He invests in every person he works with by helping them realize that they have the power to create the life they deserve. We discuss obesity, carb addiction, dysfunctional relationships, and the need for healthy coping skills. Dr. Cywes addresses our need to realize that self-approval is self-care and explains how every person can benefit from a better relationship with their emotional management.

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#42 How to Be Your Own Cheerleader with Mandy Ross

If you are ready to take back your life, don’t miss this episode. Mandy Ross, an international TV host, coach, and YouTuber shares how we call can become the best cheerleader in our own lives. We discuss dealing with hardships, staying positive, and how you have to go within if you want to create the life you deserve. Mandy’s practical advice on personal growth will help you lift yourself out of any place that isn’t working for you anymore.

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# 41 Learning to Celebrate Wins

We focus on what we need to change and improve in our lives, but what keeps us from celebrating what’s going well? In this episode, Dr. Kristie shares why it’s hard to celebrate wins, the barriers that keep us from being proud of ourselves, and the tips to help you embrace your wins. From permitting yourself to be proud to overcoming comparison, don’t miss this episode.

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#40 How to Care Less About What People Think of You

Do you care way too much about what other people think about you? Are you spending excessive time worrying about how others see you? It’s normal to care or worry about what other people think, but it also can keep you stuck. In this episode, I share with you how our childhood affects our adult view of ourselves. I also share my struggle of worrying about what others thought about my career path as a sex therapist and continued work. If you want to dial down how much you care about what other people think and learn the five tips that I use, don’t miss this episode.

#39 How Confidence Affects Your Relationship

Do you realize how much your confidence affects your relationship? If you’re ready to dive into ways to improve your confidence, tune in to this episode. From how you see yourself to how your partner sees you, I’m covering everything you need to know about the affect it has on your relationship. Don’t miss the three questions you need to ask yourself and my favorite five tips on improving your confidence, which will improve your relationship.

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#38 You Are A F*cking Awesome Mom with Leslie Bruce

Gone are the days of feeling overwhelmed, alone, and not good enough as a mom. Leslie Bruce, award-winning journalist and author of You Are a F*cking Awesome Mom: So Embrace the Chaos, Get Over the Guilt, and Be True to You shares her journey as a new mom with no apologies. Her story of becoming a mom, struggling with postpartum depression, anxiety, and navigating mom guilt is one that so many people can connect with. She bears her soul, missteps, and the pressure that society puts on new moms. Even if you’re not a mom, you’ll find something to connect with in this episode as Leslie answers all of my questions about how to find out what path is best for you.

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#35 Remembering Those We’ve Lost with Ross Victory

If you’ve ever lost a loved one, the holidays can be a stressful time of the year. That’s why I’m interviewing Ross Victory, singer, songwriter, and author of the father-son memoir, Views from the Cockpit. Ross shares how his journey of healing and dealing with the death of his father.

From his personal growth to realizations about his father, we discuss his journey through grief. This candid conversation will give you hope, guidance, and inspiration to enjoy every moment you have with those you love.

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#34 Spiritual Healing with Karen Kenney

From her down-to-earth approach to spirituality to her life lessons she learned through tragedy, Karen Kenney is the embodiment of strength. In this episode, she shares how her mother’s tragic death led her to find her spiritual connection in the world. Between our humor, accents, and hearts of service, we discuss how you can find your path to a relationship with something greater than you. Don’t miss our discussion on compassion, self-love, and how to focus on self-change.

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#33 How to Use Music to Help You Grow with Bill Protzmann

If you love music as much as I do, you’re going to enjoy this episode. I speak with musician, speaker, and author Bill Protzmann. In this episode, we discuss how to use music to help you improve every relationship in your life, especially the one you have with yourself. From why hearing your favorite song triggers memories, to why we need to take more time out for self-care, we discuss the healing power of music.

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#31 Overcoming Odds with Oleg Lougheed

If you think you have had it tough, then don’t miss Oleg’s story. From having to leave his home in Russia and his mother as a child then coming to the United States to start his life, he has overcome many barriers. In this episode, we discuss his belief that every human has a unique story that can make an impact on the world. Listen as we discuss how you can start today to realize your own story and how your ability to overcome odds you face continue to make you the incredible person you are.

#29 How to Stop Being Controlled by Fear

Do you ever feel controlled by fear? Whether it’s real or imagined, fear can cause you to spiral and feel stuck. From fear showing up in yourself or your relationship, you can learn to navigate through it. In this episode, I explore what fear is, how it shows up in your life, and practical tips to help you overcome it.

The days of being a victim to your fear are over. You deserve a life where fear doesn’t dominate your thoughts. Listen as I help you put fear into perspective and regain control.

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#28 Making Healthy Easy with Jenna Braddock

If you had 30 minutes with an expert in nutrition and health, what would you ask them? In this conversation with Jenna Braddock MSH, RDN, CSSD, LD/N, ACSM-CPT we discuss how to make healthy easy. As a former athlete, mom, and coach’s wife, she gives practical advice on how you can make changes to create the life you deserve.

From parenting to coaching athletes, Jenna’s experience in helping people change their mindset about food is life-changing. We discuss tips and techniques to stay focused on your healthy lifestyle even when you are in a relationship.

Managing expectations, getting active even when you don’t feel like it, and how to eat healthy when your partner doesn’t are a few of the many topics we cover. If you want practical and easy suggestions you can use today, don’t miss this episode.

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#27 The Power of Friendship with Mona and Lisa

In this episode, I chat with my two besties, Mona and Lisa. We have been a trio for the past fourteen years as we have taken on life together. From bad relationships to celebrations, our friendship has endured because we prioritize one another in our lives. We discuss how we have grown within ourselves and the changes we had to make to find healthy relationships. This episode gives a sneak peek of how much I value these two wonderful women in my life and my belief in the power of friendship.

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#26 How I Became a Sex Therapist

Have you ever wondered how someone ends up as a sex therapist? I get asked a lot of questions, but especially how I ended up in the field of sexuality. In this episode, I share how my life went through many different turns, as well as my biggest failure, which led me into my dream career. If you have experienced failure, I challenge you to view it differently. What if something you failed at was the best thing that ever happened to you? Listen to this episode to see how my failure pivoted my life in a way I would have never expected.

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#24 Overcoming Barriers to Your Sexual Self

As a whole person, you need to be connected to your sexual self. You deserve to have insight into your wants, needs, and desire, but many people struggle due to inner barriers. In this episode, I’ll discuss the three major barriers that keep you from connecting with your sexual self and how to overcome each of them.

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#23 Intervention 101 with Mark Crandall

Addiction isn’t the end for every addict; for many, it’s just the beginning on a path of discovery. In this episode, I chat with Mark Crandall author of Embrace Your Past, Win Your Future, speaker, and clinical interventionist. To say he’s lived many lives already is an understatement. Mark shares his journey of growing up through abuse, addiction, finding recovery at a young age, and how he has found his true calling.

He has overcome so many barriers in his life and could easily focus on his traumatic past, but he has turned his story into a life worth living. He also shares his passion as an interventionist helping families whose loved ones struggle with addiction. If you think you’ve had it tough and don’t know how to move forward, then don’t miss this episode.

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#21 Stop Anxiety From Ruining Your Relationship with Emily Davis

I can’t wait for you to listen to my recent chat with Emily Davis, lover of all things fantasy, magical, and nerdy. She is the author of Damsel No More. We talk about how she applies the strategies of role-play gaming to the life coaching world. After years of surviving relationship abuse, she made it her quest to help women slay their fears and create healthy relationships through creativity and play. Here’s my conversation with Emily on how to stop anxiety from ruining your relationship.

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#20 Discovering Who You Are with Camille Joyce

Is it possible to be your own hero? Today, I am speaking with Camille Joyce entrepreneur, writer, and aspiring life coach. She explains how her personal journey of discovering who she is and provides tips for you to do the same. She created the Heroic Soul to help and encourage others to find greater strength from within. She believes that when we choose to align ourselves with the soul, it can unlock a pathway to a life of true freedom and happiness. If you are on the journey of discovering who you are and wanting to know how to overcome society’s expectations of you, keep listening because we are covering it all.

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#19 Being Your Authentic Self with Storm Ryan

If you are ready to live your authentic life and find out who you really are. You’re not going to want to miss this episode. I had the pleasure of chatting with Storm Ryan, a 19-year-old internet personality who has a massive YouTube channel with a ton of subscribers that features domestic lifestyle content along with his boyfriend and he also expresses his personal viewpoints on LGBT topics.

Ryan shares his journey of finding his authentic self and what it takes for him to be a genuine creator out there. Also, advice for parents who have loved ones who are exploring their gender identity as well as their sexual identity. I know you’re going to enjoy today’s episode as much as I did.

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#18 Ask Me Anything

As a psychotherapist and clinical sexologist, I receive hundreds of emails from people asking questions about every aspect of their lives. From mental health, relationships, sex, gender identity, sexual identity, and many other topics, I enjoy providing my thoughts on these topics. I decided it would be helpful to take a few of your questions and answer them in an Ask Me Anything episode. This one is general topics, and future ones will specifically cover questions about sex and identities.

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#17 How to Deal with Rejection

Rejection can feel really nasty. No one wants to experience it, yet we all do at some point in our lives. Some of us may experience it a lot more than others. Today, I’m going to teach you to not let rejection define who you are. From the types of rejection, the narrative you tell yourself about it, the side effects of rejection, and how to deal with it. We are going to go there and deal with rejection.

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#16 How to Help Without Enabling

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to help a family member without enabling them. When you have worked on improving your life, and you want your family member to do the same, it can be tough to always be there for them. You want to support and love them, but you don’t want to enable them. If you are ready to learn about enabling behavior, signs that you are enabling, and how to stop it, then check out this episode.

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#15 Overcoming the 5 Barriers That Are Holding You Back

If you’re ready to figure out what’s getting in the way of you improving your life, you’re not going to miss this episode.

I’m going to tell you about the five most common barriers that get in the way of you accomplishing your goals. Whether it’s your personal or professional goals, these are the five most common barriers that keep people stuck and unable to move forward in their progress.

I’ll tell you about each of these five barriers that I see in the clients that I work with every day. Also, how to overcome each one of them if you’re ready to move and take action in your life. Play this episode above and be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss future ones.

Fix Yourself First - Episode 14

#14 Balanced Parenting with Jason Eric Ross

Have you ever wondered how to stay balanced as a parent? Even if your life has taken many different twists and turns, you are exactly where you need to be. No one knows this better than my guest, therapist, actor, and writer Jason Eric Ross. Jason and I chat about how life pivots when you least expect it to, what it’s like to grow up with therapists for parents, and he shares everything you need to know to be the best parent possible. From bulldozer parenting to telling your kids no, we are covering it all.

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#11 How to Find Your Superpower

Believe it or not, you have a superpower that makes you unique. Whether it’s your resilience, humor, or the way you see the world, there is something about you that makes you special. If you are ready to find your superpower and use it to benefit every aspect of your life, then this episode is for you.

My best friend Lisa tipped me off on the idea of having a superpower. As we were discussing the concept that every person has something unique about them that sets them apart, I realized what my superpower is. You will have to listen to the show to hear about it. Join me to figure out what makes you unique, what barriers will try to stop you, and how to live your best life.

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#10 How to Conquer Your Trauma with Jo Standing

Whether you have experienced trauma or you love someone who is trying to overcome their trauma, this episode is for you. I had the pleasure of interviewing Jo Standing, author of Conquer Your Trauma Drama and body resolution trauma specialist. We discuss how she was able to heal from her trauma and find her personal and professional path. From her advice, to tips, and to how you can help your loved ones, don’t miss our conversation about conquering trauma.

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#9 5 Ways to Become a Better Communicator

The struggle to effectively communicate is a big problem for many people. Most of us were not taught how to communicate what we think, need, or desire growing up. This can lead to conflict in families, friendships, and all relationships. Whether personal or professional you need the tools to lead your best life.

In this episode, I tell you the five ways that you can become a better communicator in all of your relationships. Whether it’s your personal or professional life, you can benefit from improving your communication skills. Since you are dedicated to fixing yourself versus waiting on others to change, don’t miss these tips you can implement today. It’s time that you stop being a part of the problem and become a part of the solution. Be sure to let me know what you think of this episode.

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#8 Why You Need to Go Within with Laticia Action Jackson

Do you ever wonder if you have what it takes? Are you worthy enough to accomplish your goals? In this episode, I had the honor of talking with Laticia Action Jackson, veteran, health/fitness expert, author, and fitness Olympian. She shares her journey of finding her strength, courage, and worthiness by realizing that she has everything she needs within herself. She shares how she has survived many obstacles and hardships in her life. Action is a great example of how when you focus on how you can change for the better, you can get the life you deserve. This episode shares her personal growth journey which will leave you motivated and inspired.

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#7 How to Find Yourself When You Are Feeling Lost with Kacie Main

I’m changing up things this week with my first guest interview. On this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Kacie Main, author of I Gave Up Men For Lent. She shares her journey of going within herself during a time of feeling lost and her realization of needing to fix herself first. Our conversation covers many topics, but most important is the growth that comes when you stop blaming others and take accountability for yourself.

From what her family thinks about airing her dirty laundry to how her journey led her to better relationships, I know you will enjoy our conversation. Don’t forget to stick around to the end where I give the tip of the day and your homework for the week. Let me know what you think.

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#6 How to Detach From the Emotional Vampires in Your Life

Have you ever been around a person that seems to drain your energy? You are left feeling tired or irritated.

Emotional vampires are those people that latch onto you and suck the life out of you. Whether it’s your personal or professional life, these emotional vampires will take away your peace.

Don’t worry. They can’t do this to you without your permission. Yes, you read that right, you are the one keeping them attached to your life. This has to change.

In this episode, I explain everything you need to know about emotional vampires and tips on how to detach them from your life. If you are ready to release these unhealthy people from your life, this episode is for you.

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#5 How to Create Boundaries That Work

One thing that I hear consistently from the clients I provide coaching and counseling for is the difficulty they have with boundaries. Whether it’s due to their struggle to say no or please others, they have a hard time keeping up boundaries.

People make the idea of creating a boundary more difficult than it has to be.

Boundaries keep us safe and they help us live a healthy life. Your ability to define your boundaries and maintain them will make a big difference in your continued growth. If you think or know that you are in a codependent relationship you need to figure out your boundaries fast.

Check out this episode where I define boundaries, explain why they are important, tell you how to create and maintain them in your life. If you don’t change these, someone else will.

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#4 Learn to Trust Yourself First

You will make wrong decisions in your life because you are not perfect. However, you don’t have to keep struggling to trust yourself or your decision making.

You get to decide if this is an area you want to work on in your life. I hope you choose to trust your own judgement especially as you focus on what you can change versus trying to change others.

Don’t continue to ask everyone else’s opinion about what you should do. No one can do it for you, regardless of how big the decision is. You have to have the final say. If you don’t and depend on someone else to give you the answer, you get to blame the outcome on them. This takes away your power and responsibility. No one else is responsible for your behavior, actions, and outcomes. That’s your stuff. No one can make you do anything. So, no more excuses.

If you are ready to improve your ability to trust yourself then check out how to create self-change in this episode.

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#3 How to Say No and Stop People Pleasing


– Herbert Bayard Swope

I blame my years of difficulty saying no and people pleasing on being raised in the South. It was impolite to say no or not help out every time you are needed. Not to mention what people would think of me, if I said no.

Freedom appeared when I stopped blaming others and took responsibility for myself. I have to be the one who says no to those that make demands of my time. I don’t have the ability to please anyone and when I gave this up, is when I found happiness.

There are many reasons why people struggle with saying no and people pleasing. Regardless of the reason why, the most important part is what action you will take to stop it.

Take it from a recovering people pleaser, you can change, and your happiness depends on it.

To learn to say no and stop people pleasing, this episode covers:

  • Why people pleasing is unrealistic?

  • How to know if you are a people pleaser?

  • What areas of your life are affected by your inability to say no?

  • Actionable tips and homework to help you change

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#2 How to Get Your Confidence Back


– Joe Namath

Joe had it right. Being confident has many benefits including your ability to have fun in life. It also bring security in yourself.

If you have struggled with confidence or can’t figure out what happened to your confidence, now is the time to take action. Your lack of confidence will affect your personal and professional relationships.

It can even keep you from getting the life you deserve.

Start improving your confidence by remembering why you are good enough. You have been through harder things in life and overcome them. If you don’t take action now to improve your confidence, when will you start?

Get your head up, eyes forward, and shoulders back. Look ahead at the path you are creating. No one is better than you right in this moment.

To get your confidence back, this episode covers:

  • Defining confidence

  • How to not get stuck in the cycle of whys

  • How confidence affects every area of your life

  • Getting your head in the right place

  • Reminders of why you are good enough

  • Tips to get your confidence back

  • Homework assignment to help you take action

Fix Yourself First - Episode 1

#1 Embrace the Need to Fix Yourself First

If you are as tired as I was a few years back when I realized that I couldn’t change anyone, then you are ready for self-change.

From friendships to coworkers to boyfriends, I finally realized that the only person I could change was myself. If you feel exhausted and tired of waiting on others, you are ready to create real change.

Why should you embrace the idea of fixing yourself? With awareness comes freedom and when you see just how much power there is in personal change, you will get the life you desire.

When you become a healthier person every relationship you are in will change.

You will see one of two things happen. Your partner will be affected by your change which is the best chance they will change, or your tolerance for a crappy relationship will stop. When this happens, you may decide to end the relationship.

Regardless of the outcome, the power is in your ability to fix yourself first, versus waiting on others.

If you continue to waste your time waiting, it will only end in disappointment.

Start embracing the need to fix yourself first by listening to this episode where you will learn:

  • The five common blocks to personal change

  • Actionable steps to change

  • Homework assignment to help you take action

Get out of your way and find the life you are waiting for.